I don’t claim to be a relationship expert, or even one to give advice on the subject, but I see this holiday cause a lot of suffering.
Valentine’s Day is like everyone celebrating a birthday you won’t get to have that year in front of you. The gifts, the fun, and there you are missing out on it all. Right? Or is there another way to take it in?
Certainly there is that way of looking at it, you can feel left out, depressed and roll your eyes at the whole thing. As the day approaches it’s unfortunately like picking sides. You’re either in the group of happy couples or the passive aggressive single people. However there’s a lot of room in between there that either the card companies or people don’t want you to see. I’ve always thought of Valentine’s Day as a day of love. Not just romantic, but in all forms. I make a point to wish everyone a Happy Valentine’s Day, friend, family or otherwise. I go out of my way to hold the door open for someone, smile at someone or compliment them. A lot of people feel forgotten. The elderly, the widows and people who are away from loved ones.
Try to spend this day searching out those forgotten people. Over half the population in the US is single. If people know you don’t have a significant other they won’t always say something. I’ve had friends say that I’m the only one that wished them a Happy Valentine’s Day. Everyone deserves to be happy, loved and remembered. I like to give small gifts and or small cards. As far as myself I like to do something rather than buy something.
A couple additional things to remember:
You aren’t alone. It may not help you to remember that, but the fact remains.
It’s only another day. Typical, I know, but when the sun rises it all returns to normal.
Don’t watch depressing romantic movies. You don’t need that.
You never know what the next year brings.
Spread some love.